Leaving Mbarara was difficult. We had to say goodbye to two different groups: all the community members and leaders, who we just had gotten to know so well over the past nine weeks, and all of our partners, who we had grown so close to over the course of the project. Goodbyes are never easy, and this one was hardly any different. But I took comfort from the fact that this is a long-term project, and although we were saying goodbye, I knew that we (some of us or other Duke people) would be returning in some capacity. But why should we have to leave? I wonder what the community members thought. After we had spent the past two months talking to them about their problems, talking about implementing potential new programs, and, truly, making a great deal of progress, what were they thinking when we told them we were leaving? Why wouldn’t or couldn’t we continue the momentum?
I think we were curious objects to the community members. We had taken a community-based approach that I don’t believe many other NGOs in the area had taken — an approach that actually listened to and responded to the thoughts and feelings of community members. And I think they appreciated this. But it was then odd, after trying to show our commitment to the work over the project’s time (which, at nine weeks, I believe is too short to prove one’s commitment to the community members anyhow), when we told them we would be leaving. They understood that we were students and I explained to them that we would be working extremely hard over the next nine months to build and find funding for the project for next year, which I think they trusted. But as I write right now, I realize just how long a time it is to tell someone to wait for one year. Wait for a year so a small portion of the community can get better water, perhaps? They were used to it, however.
As we left Kashongi, I looked out of the car’s window pensively for one last time. I felt satisfied but not content. That is, satisfied with the work we had done over the past nine weeks — a safe motherhood intervention, a baseline survey, focus group discussions, and a short-term home-to-home assessment of the intervention. But not content with the state of affairs on the ground as it remained.
It wasn’t an abandonment to leave. Like I said, I think people understood, and in many ways the project was only a beginning. But I couldn’t help but think about how I would be returning to a place out of reach from virtually everyone we worked with. I would be returning to a certain place essentially to shield myself from the problems they faced. This was a place where they all yearned to come to but couldn’t, a place where for many people all of these other problems went away, or perhaps never even appeared. My parents asked me if I loved it in Uganda. I didn’t. While I don’t love life there (such as the roads or the food), I do love the people and am fully committed to helping them. Now, will I go back to enjoying all the amenities of the rich world? I certainly will — but I think this enjoyment will now and forever leave a bitter taste. I think Paul Farmer has called it ambivalence.
I figured it would be difficult to return home and to experience this bitter taste. But as far as I’m concerned, we left Uganda the day we arrived in Kampala. There, we stayed in a beautiful, Western-style hotel and could hang out in the elite sections of the city — which truly looked no different from the streets of many US cities. When we first arrived here from Mbarara and stopped at a fast food restaurant that looked exactly like what we have in the US, it was tough. How could we drive just four or five hours away and end up in a completely different world? (And I say “completely different” all the while part of me believes that we didn’t truly see all the facets of Ugandan life, such as all aspects of the health care system.) Was the plight of the first world not connected to the opulence of the second?
Within Kampala, I could just as easily move from the slums to the city’s district of wealth and see a stark contrast. Or I could do the same in any U.S. city within probably 20 minutes. Or I could fly just 8 hours and end up in a completely different world. And that is what I am doing now — on the airplane, off to a place so strangely unlike the place where I came from.